Advice for Husbands

Okay husbands, this one’s for you. Ladies, you should read this with or to your husbands. Both man and wife should treat each other lovingly, but this week’s blog is particularly for the men. Do you recall, in old movies, how gentlemen had a certain way of talking to ladies? They would watch the words that they used and even the tone in which they spoke. This is because women’s emotions are so much more fragile than man’s. I am not saying that women are weak, at all! Being softhearted is not a weakness. It is, in fact, usually part of the reason why our husbands fell in love with us to begin with. Men want sweet, kind, and loving women. That is how God intended women to be.

I think you fellas forget that sometimes though. When you get upset, you just say whatever comes to mind. You don’t understand the effect that your words have on your sweet wife. I don’t know about you ladies, but when my husband gets “passionate” about a situation and lets a few “four-letter” words slip, it really hurts me, even though they are never directed toward me.

First you need to ask yourself, “Am I a considerate husband?”

Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers. 1Peter 3:7

Study your wife and learn the things that she needs. What makes her happy, sad, anxious, nervous, and/or depressed?

It is so important for men to consider their wives before they speak. I know that times have changed, but Christian girls are still being raised to be kind-hearted, sweet, and loving young women. Guys, if you would like your wife to stay this way, then watch what you say around her! You don’t have to treat her like a child, but you should be considerate of her emotions.

It is a woman’s nature to worry about things. If you don’t want your wife to worry, then don’t give her things to worry about. I am not saying that you need to keep important things from her, but again, just be considerate. Think about what you say before you say it.  ^“My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires.” James 1:19-20

Your home will be a much happier one if you do these things.

Husbands, I would also like to share with you a few things that I found in a wonderful article called A Christian Husband:

“A Christian husband should be the leader without being a dictator. He is to be the head of his wife as Christ is the head of the church.  Jesus is not an uncaring tyrant over the church. He is the Savior, protector, and supporter of His precious bride! This is the way every wise Christian husband properly leads in the home. He leads by love, understanding, and example. The more a husband learns to do this, the better leader he will be. The entire family will gladly and willingly follow his leadership and obey his directives, with very few exceptions.”

I also found 12 commandments for husbands. This one fits perfectly with this blog post.

4.  Thou shalt not talk down to thy wife nor use sarcasm or ridicule. Thou shalt not belittle her, for her sense of self-worth is much dependent on your appreciation and encouragement of her. As the scriptures say, "Love is kind" (1 Corinthians 13:4), and again, "Do everything without complaining or arguing" (Philippians 2:14), and again, "In honor prefer one another" (Romans 12:10). 

11. Thou shalt in some way each day show thy wife that "I need you,” that “I appreciate you,” and that "I want to help you." So shalt thy marriage become a strong and blest tie that binds two hearts in Christian love. 

To read the rest of this article and the 12 Commandments for Husbands, just click on this link http://www.trustingodamerica.com/HUSBANDS.htm.

Now, wives, this article is not written to be held over your husbands head (just as none of the others are written for him to hold over yours). Love your husband, treat him with respect and love and I am sure he will do the same for you. God bless you and your marriage.

Let me know if you have any questions, or if there’s anything else you’d like to read about.

"Marriage is to be honored by all, and husbands and wives must be faithful to each other..." Hebrews 13:4

Beauty Doesn't Last

Hey everyone, sorry I didn’t write anything last week. Seems like time is just going by so quickly; the week just got away from me! Anyway, so I have been praying for the Lord to use this blog and me to help enrich all of your lives. So I give you this:

“Who can find a virtuous and capable wife? She is more precious than rubies…  Charm is deceptive, and beauty does not last; but a woman who fears the Lord will be greatly praised.”

                                   Proverbs 31

As a wife, it is our duty to love our husbands. We are to work hard for our family. I’ll be the first one to tell you that I’m still working on waking up early, preparing breakfast, and keeping the house clean. The point is though, that I am working on those things. I have such a desire to please the Lord and my husband. I want to be the best wife that I can be, because in return, I know that my husband will want to be the best that he can be. My greatest desire is to be a Proverbs 31 kind of woman.

I know that this has been short, but I pray that you will read Proverbs 31. It isn’t very long, but I know that it will be a blessing to you. Hide its words in your heart and strive everyday to be the kind of woman that God wants you to be!

Also, I encourage you to watch this video. It will change your marriage and probably your life! :) (Just click on the words.)

Sex is a part of the Gospel?

As always, let me know if you have any questions or anything else you'd like to read about. I love feedback!

"Let marriage be held in honor among all..." Hebrews 13:4

Submission?

As I was reading and studying today, I came across an article that really opened my eyes. It talked about the husband’s responsibility to love his wife, as Christ loves the church. In return, wives, we must willingly obey our husbands in everything, just as the church obeys Christ (Ephesians 5:24). 

A wife’s responsibility to her husband is mentioned many times in the Word. Ladies, it’s so important for us to listen to and obey our husband’s authority. The Lord has made him the head of our household for a reason. God would never tell us to do something unless he truly thought it would be beneficial to us. He loves us so much and he only wants the very best for us. When you cheerfully submit to your husband, you are submitting to the Lord. 

You will find that there is much more harmony in your marriage when you build your husband up and follow his lead. If your marriage is struggling, try obeying your husband and tell him how much you appreciate him caring for you and providing for you.

Husbands don’t forget to love on your wife, everyday. Tell her that you love and appreciate her.

I pray that my words, along with The Word, will enrich your marriage. I know that my blogs are short, but they're meant to give your marriage a quick boost and spark thought!  :)

As always, let me know if you have any questions or if there’s anything else you’d like to read about.

Here's the link to the article if you'd like to read it :)

http://bible.org/seriespage/what-every-wife-needs-know

"Let marriage be held in honor among all..." Hebrews 13:4

How do I love thee?

So, what is it that first caused you to fall in love with your Love? Was it their looks or their appearance? The way they talked or carried themselves… or perhaps, their laugh or personality? Whatever it was, is that trait gone now?

When I was young, I was told many times, by married women that I looked up to, to make a list of all of the traits that I expected my future husband to have. Eventually, I made my list and prayed about it, many times. My husband has every single trait I wrote on that list. Every single one. God is so good. 

I guess what I’m trying to say is, no matter how long you’ve been married, if you look closely, you’ll see that your Love has still got it. Most of the traits that cause us to fall in love are so rooted into their very being, it's not something that they'll stop doing or stop being. I don’t believe that people can just “fall out of love.” If you were ever truly in love, it never goes away. It may take some digging, a lot of talking to each other, maybe some crying and maybe some counseling… but it’s still there. Don’t give up on love. I know that’s cliché, but it’s good advice! 

I encourage you all to remember, daily, what made you want to say “I do” in the first place. I also encourage every ‘single’ person reading this to make a list! Write down every single trait you expect to see in your future spouse, and be specific. Don’t forget to pray and talk to God about it. You won’t regret it!

Tell your Love that you love them, everyday! Don't assume that they already know you love them. 

Let me know of any questions or other topics that you’d like you read about. :)

"Let marriage be held in honor among all..." Hebrews 13:4

In love with Love

I am so in love with my husband. Maybe it's because he loves me so much too... or maybe it's because I know that the Lord gave him to me and we are meant to be together. Lately, I have been so inspired by other ladies talking about how great their husbands are too. In a world so full of divorce and broken marriages, it's so great to hear about women who are putting God and their husbands before themselves. I absolutely love marriage. It's such a beautiful thing. Treat it as such. So, I  challenge you all to find 5 things that you absolutely adore about your spouse and 5 things you love about being married. Write it in a note to them... Put it in your blog (like me lol) and/or put it on Facebook or Twitter. Tell the world why you love your Love! The world needs more excuses to believe in marriage!


What I love about Royce:
1. How sweet he is to me.
2. How much he loves the Lord.
3. His smile.
4. The way he loves me.
5. How cute and goofy he is.


What I love about being married:
1. Taking care of my husband.
2. Having someone to take care of me.
3. Having someone who is just as excited about my future as I am.
4. Always having someone to build me up and love me through the good and bad times.
5. Having someone to lead me closer and closer to the Lord each day.


So, there are just a few of the reasons why I love marriage. Tell me yours and let me know of any questions or other topics you'd like to read about!

"Let marriage be held in honor among all..." Hebrews 13:4