Advice for Husbands

Okay husbands, this one’s for you. Ladies, you should read this with or to your husbands. Both man and wife should treat each other lovingly, but this week’s blog is particularly for the men. Do you recall, in old movies, how gentlemen had a certain way of talking to ladies? They would watch the words that they used and even the tone in which they spoke. This is because women’s emotions are so much more fragile than man’s. I am not saying that women are weak, at all! Being softhearted is not a weakness. It is, in fact, usually part of the reason why our husbands fell in love with us to begin with. Men want sweet, kind, and loving women. That is how God intended women to be.

I think you fellas forget that sometimes though. When you get upset, you just say whatever comes to mind. You don’t understand the effect that your words have on your sweet wife. I don’t know about you ladies, but when my husband gets “passionate” about a situation and lets a few “four-letter” words slip, it really hurts me, even though they are never directed toward me.

First you need to ask yourself, “Am I a considerate husband?”

Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers. 1Peter 3:7

Study your wife and learn the things that she needs. What makes her happy, sad, anxious, nervous, and/or depressed?

It is so important for men to consider their wives before they speak. I know that times have changed, but Christian girls are still being raised to be kind-hearted, sweet, and loving young women. Guys, if you would like your wife to stay this way, then watch what you say around her! You don’t have to treat her like a child, but you should be considerate of her emotions.

It is a woman’s nature to worry about things. If you don’t want your wife to worry, then don’t give her things to worry about. I am not saying that you need to keep important things from her, but again, just be considerate. Think about what you say before you say it.  ^“My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires.” James 1:19-20

Your home will be a much happier one if you do these things.

Husbands, I would also like to share with you a few things that I found in a wonderful article called A Christian Husband:

“A Christian husband should be the leader without being a dictator. He is to be the head of his wife as Christ is the head of the church.  Jesus is not an uncaring tyrant over the church. He is the Savior, protector, and supporter of His precious bride! This is the way every wise Christian husband properly leads in the home. He leads by love, understanding, and example. The more a husband learns to do this, the better leader he will be. The entire family will gladly and willingly follow his leadership and obey his directives, with very few exceptions.”

I also found 12 commandments for husbands. This one fits perfectly with this blog post.

4.  Thou shalt not talk down to thy wife nor use sarcasm or ridicule. Thou shalt not belittle her, for her sense of self-worth is much dependent on your appreciation and encouragement of her. As the scriptures say, "Love is kind" (1 Corinthians 13:4), and again, "Do everything without complaining or arguing" (Philippians 2:14), and again, "In honor prefer one another" (Romans 12:10). 

11. Thou shalt in some way each day show thy wife that "I need you,” that “I appreciate you,” and that "I want to help you." So shalt thy marriage become a strong and blest tie that binds two hearts in Christian love. 

To read the rest of this article and the 12 Commandments for Husbands, just click on this link http://www.trustingodamerica.com/HUSBANDS.htm.

Now, wives, this article is not written to be held over your husbands head (just as none of the others are written for him to hold over yours). Love your husband, treat him with respect and love and I am sure he will do the same for you. God bless you and your marriage.

Let me know if you have any questions, or if there’s anything else you’d like to read about.

"Marriage is to be honored by all, and husbands and wives must be faithful to each other..." Hebrews 13:4